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Keith
Posted: 2011 August 03 at 12:04pm | IP Logged Quote Keith

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My Fiance seems depressed all the time.  She has a very low self-esteem and everything seems to be too much for her.  Our relationship is taking strain as a result of this and I don't know how to cope with it anymore.  She is such a beautiful person and fun to be around.  Then it comes, times that I think who is this person standing here.  She freaks out completely and wants to leave me for reasons unbeknown to me.  She has issues because I had past girlfriends.  Relationships that has been over long before her and met.  She seems to withdraw herself even from her family and me and this seems to happen more often as time passes.  She shows absolutely no resilience and seems to give up all hope for the future.  She has mentioned suicide a couple of times because "everyday is like a mountain which I can not climb"  She is lethargic and sleeps all the time.  She basically eats and sleeps and then picks up weight which is an obsessive concern for her.  She basically puts her self in a catch 22 situation a vicious cycle of self destructiveness and despair. 

I am trying to help her but obviously;y I am too involved to stay objective all the time as she personally attacks me most of the time. 

How can I help her feel better and facilitate change in her general attitude towards life, relationships and everything. 

We dont have enough money at the moment to go to extensive therapies.

Is there any advice anybody can give us please.  It would be appreciated sincerely.

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Posted: 2012 May 21 at 4:41am | IP Logged Quote thetherapists

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I think your fiancee needs your attention... I believe you
have to make her feel better by making doing simple
things that would portray your love to her and that she
is special and have nothing to be insecure with...
 
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Posted: 2012 July 17 at 11:42am | IP Logged Quote 888Ronel888
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You cannot love her enough to complete her.

Her condition sounds serious which necessitates professional care, perhaps including medication.

Unfortunately, if she does not receive help her behaviour will likely worsen and affect her relationship with you as well as her ability to perform at work.

Therapy will help her find out what she needs and instead of believing the world needs to give this to her and then becoming angry with everyone for not loving her unconditionally and understanding her, she must learn to give this to herself.

Depression is just like any other disease that grows when untreated. Also the deeper someone becomes depressed the harder it is to change their neurochemical imbalances. Some psychologists are open to accepting reduced rates payments. Otherwise you will need to approach government hospitals, or wait for a suicide attempt to gain emergency admission. Please phone SADAG for more concrete support for those who cannot pay to see a professional. 011 262 6396. 

 
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